2.21 Love Your Money Part 1
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[00:00:00] Welcome to the sorority from the floor of my studio. Why? Because I just need to get really grounded today. You know, I was bad. I was a bad girl. I was a bad girl checking my bank accounts and getting all stressy. And then I thought, you know, I need to do a podcast episode on this because I know we all fucking do it.
We all do it. We all want more money. We all want to let it flow into our lives effortlessly, attracting abundance with ease, and all that. Of course, why not, right? Of course we do. That's the whole point. But what most of us don't realize is we're actually too busy chasing money. With that unattractive, like, weird as fuck, [00:01:00] um, like, not in the fun way, but like, that, that energy of a clingy, desperate, drunk ass Last call, kind of, kind of hook up energy.
, just clamoring and clawing and throwing ourselves at it. And it's cringey shit, right? We all fall into that psycho ex kind of girlfriend crazy when we feel that money isn't showing up for us in the way that we want it to.
Don't deny it. There's no need for feeling ashamed. There's no shame in it. It happens. Like, it's gonna happen from time to time. We get highs and lows, get a little crazy. We were already crazy to begin with, so. This is why I was really driven to create this two part series. So I wanted to go deep in a two part series because this is the month of love.
This is a month of love. We just did Love Bomb, and we can [00:02:00] work together on building more prosperous relationships with our money. It's time that we actually stop, like, that booty call BS, and actually, kind of like, you know, stop with the booty call, the hit it and quit it. And actually get real cash, not that hit it and quit it kind of cash, like, Oh, I just need, I just need a quick, I just need a quick hit, I just need a quick little high, a little, A little, okay, I'm feeling good, I'm feeling fine, and then it's all gone, and I feel like shit.
That's not the vibe. That's not what this is about. We don't want to keep doing this up and down bullshit. I'm gonna say that again. I'm gonna say that again, because it was a bit off. You could try to, because there's also no shame in it. That's why I've created this two part series. It's a surprise series because this is the month of love and when it comes to loving ourselves, we need to learn how to love our money so that you can start working on building real, proper, solid relationships with your money so we can stop that booty [00:03:00] call, hit it and quit it kind of cash bullshit attitude that we have.
So let's make some magic. La la la la la la. Hello
my mystic sistars and my fellow creative multi passionate souls! It's your host here, Jessica Mystic, your favorite star seed soul sistar, who's gonna cheer you on and love you as you are all while showing you What's truly possible and in this show I'm going to teach you on how to make the most out of your business and through mindful magic and developing good cash habits so you can actually get some magic going.
Some magic money love. All right, so first off, before you think this is just some fantasy, bullshit, trickery sort of magic, Like, this isn't a magic show. No, no, no. Let's revisit the core principles of magic here. [00:04:00] So, first off, first off, before you think of illusionary magic, we want to call in the real manifestation magic.
The money making magic. The life changing magic. Magic that is our magic. Connecting with others and creating magic. The magic of of living the most magical fucking wonderful life of our dreams. Like, that's what we want. This magic. To love our lives. To love ourselves. To love our money. Love is magic. It is, right?
It's pure energy. From our divine being. Our highest self. And from, from our soul. This magic is felt through all areas and all forms of life. This magic. Love. The magic of love. is real. In fact, like, I'm looking at [00:05:00] myself as I'm recording this and I realized, like, how much I really miss my lashes. I just had them taken off.
If you're watching on YouTube, you can see I had my lashes taken off. So I've got, like, my big, my big round bulb blonde lash eyeballs. But I do love them. I do love my big baby blues. I feel it, I feel it, but I also feel the love when I have those lashes on. It can be something as simple and inanimate as having lashes.
It makes you feel a whole different level of love for the way that you look and the way that you feel. And you might have a different kind of love that you feel when you hug your children or pet your dog. And there's a different kind of love that you feel when you think of a cherished loved one who's passed.
Love is magic. It's a magic that brings life. Love creates more life. Like, cause we only, we only fuck for love? Watch us for fun. I don't. But I mean, we also love to fuck. I mean, that's a whole other topic. But anyways, love is magic. Magic happens when love is in the air. So this, [00:06:00] I want you to realize as you're listening to this, the fact is that magic is real.
As real as you feel love. As real as you or me. As real as the life in our cells. That spark in our heart, in our soul, it's the, it's the very energy that fills us and gives us life, gives us motivation. It's our passion and our ability to actually create beyond measure, to love beyond measure. Magic is energy.
We are energy. Our aura is energy. We are magic. It's all fucking magical, baby. Like, well, I mean, so is money, right? So money is just the same as us. It is an entity. It is, it is an abundant frequency. It, it's a channel of energy, of magic. It's a, it's a, it's a, it's money, [00:07:00] success, prosperity. All of those words mean the same thing.
They are all simply defining a vibration. A vibrational frequency on a channel of the money station. Which is a vibrational frequency which is channeling love. and existence and magic.
Scientific fact about energy. It cannot be created or destroyed. Should I say it cannot be created nor destroyed? But neither can money. Love cannot be created or destroyed. It just is. Same goes for money. It just is. It simply flows to or from us at any given time. Anytime. Just free flowing. It's just, it's, it's all around.
It's constantly happening. Okay, I'm flailing my arms rapidly and weird because it's it's just that's what's happening with money. It's everywhere Like one of those money tunnels. [00:08:00] So, money magic, really, is just learning how to tap into that frequency of money. And create new ways for that money to actually flow your way.
Like, honestly, you just have to reach out and grab it. Like, it is there, it is around you. But you're too busy worrying about all this other bullshit that you're ignoring money. Or you're only giving money attention in certain situations, which isn't right. We're gonna get into that. So one of the most lucrative things that that you can do, one of the most lucrative money generating activities and strategies, or cash habits as I like to call them, is learning how to love your money.
Love your fucking money honey, that's how it's gonna multiply and make more. Okay? So money and love are both energetic frequencies. They are both energy, which means [00:09:00] they are the same, interchangeably. They are magic, they are energy, that's right. So money is love. So loving your money shouldn't be that hard because you already know how to love, so you already know how to money.
Most of us are so busy showing love, giving away all that we have. In attempts to make ourselves feel worthy or someone else feel worthy. Or to love in a way that we can be rewarded with money in return. Like when we want a raise or a promotion. Or maybe we're just seeking that external validation of any kind.
Whether it be praise or acceptance or, an actual reward that you might think you want, something in return, like a proof your love was accepted and of value. We don't put any effort into directing energy into us or ourselves. for [00:10:00] the same reward. We're too busy giving it away and seeking it out here.
This is what leaves us feeling depleted, alone, helpless, sad, like really fucking sad, and those stories of not being good enough and all of the self doubt and feeling unlucky and blocked and all that other shit just follows suit. There's so much pressure on us as entrepreneurs. Especially as artists and as mothers, because whether you're mothering your children or mothering your business, we are constantly fighting the stigmas of that starving artist or having to hustle and grind and, and in order to prove that our little business is a real business, to be taken seriously, to be seen as responsible, to feel like a real business.
Our business and our, our line of work matters and is a real job. Working for ourselves isn't just some [00:11:00] whim, some little hobby. And to know that, like, investing all of this money and time and energy into something that, that isn't going to be glorified as some kind of hobby. That is going to matter to make a difference.
Like, we put so much of ourselves into making our business and creating in our work and in our lives that That's why we're so stuck seeking that validation because we don't feel validated enough as ourselves. We want people to say it's okay for us to live this way, it's okay for us to want this, it's okay for us to be doing what we're doing.
And if what we're doing, we're so heart led, if what we're doing doesn't matter, then why are we doing it? What is the purpose? Why are we here? Then you wonder why there's so many suicides for artists, like, and so many that are ostracized and misunderstood, or why we're always trying to be controlled or taken advantage of.
We started this, this journey. [00:12:00] We started our businesses. We started wanting more and choosing us and our work first. We decided to do this. In order to make time for our family, to provide, to provide for our family and for ourselves so that, so that we can let go and make something of ourselves without having to ask permission in order to live, in order to go on vacation, in order to go to your kid's little Christmas concert or kindergarten graduation.
field trips like working has like this false sense of security when you have that that that living paycheck to paycheck and that you know glorified benefits and all that shit which I mean you can get You can get benefits if you work for yourself. Just, just so you know. You can't if you really want them.
Or you just put money away. It's called being responsible. Ha! You can choose to [00:13:00] do with your money what you will. You don't need someone else to do it for you. You need to be able to take the power back. To own your life. Which is what you're doing. It's why you started a business. Why you did a side hustle.
So that you wouldn't have to, You wouldn't have to lose any more time. Or have that creeping feeling in the back of your mind that if you don't perform, or appease, or please whomever, or whatever, that you'll lose this safe job, or safe, this pasty, this pasty, this paycheck, or this livelihood, and your life would be a waste, you would lose your career, it would be blacklisted, like, why are you letting other people dictate who you are, and what is value in your life, and how you show up, like, isn't that just fucked?
It's fucked, right? We need to love ourselves enough to take control of our money. And to take control of our self worth, and our love, and our control. Over loving our lives, and ourselves, and what we do with it.
We feel like without money [00:14:00] or without security of consistent money coming in, even those who are still kind of stuck in that lie of having to work for someone else. It feels risky and irresponsible, especially when you do have a family to provide for. Money and cash flow make us feel like responsible adults and it proves that we're safe.
How safe is it when someone can take it away from us so quickly? How safe is it when everything relies on you being able to perform or outperform somebody else? You are an abundant being. There are trillions and trillions of dollars being spent every single day in so many different ways. Why wouldn't some of that flow your way?
Why wouldn't you make an effort to ensure that it does? Why wouldn't you want to welcome it and love it and use it and play with it instead of worrying about it and hunting it? Desperately seeking it out. Do you see what [00:15:00] I'm saying here? Do you see how there's a very different vibe?
This is why mindset is so important. It's not all in your head. Well, a lot of it is in our head, but what it comes, what's in our head is our reality. Our perception is reality, just as art is. What we perceive is what we believe. So if you can change what you believe in order to change the way you perceive things, you can alter reality completely.
You can create a whole new life, and a whole new trajectory, and a whole new way of loving you, and your work, and your money. And then you can amplify that shit.
Mindset about money. is not actually about money. It's about how money makes us feel when we're getting it, right? Like, how does it feel when you're getting it, when it's coming your way? We need to work on maintaining the trust and the feeling that even when we don't have [00:16:00] money, we can anchor into how good it feels when we get more because it, it's always going to come.
It's always going to come. Where you place your energy is where you place your power. And if you place, place your energy and couple it with the energy of love and money, now you have a triple fucking trifecta of calling all that shit in your way, right? That's like a triple tooted, ba ba bam, it's a good lineup.
So, I work on this all the time with my private clients, because it's one of the reasons I felt so driven in order to make accessible options. For those that are still stuck in fear and lack, like I was driven to create my community membership because working with me privately is a high ticket offer, it is more proximity, and you have to pay for proximity, we go deep, we go deep into your energetics, moving your blockages, we work on mindset, we work on strategy, we bring the two together and a personalized action plan so you can make small steps and do have the marketing and the messaging and the [00:17:00] branding to support your dreams and goals in your business or to support the life that you are looking to create.
Now for many that work with me privately, That's not to say that they already have a lot of money. A lot of my private clients are still struggling with debt because they've spent thousands of dollars investing in people or online programs to try and teach them how to become this certain type of entrepreneur by doing X, Y, and Z.
Well, X, Y, and Z doesn't always fucking work for me. Because that shit's gotta be, that shit's personal. There's only so much strategy you can do while ignoring yourself on a personal level, and your personal energy, and your actual life, and building things the way that you want them to be. If you don't take all that shit into account, you can throw as much money at the problem as you want, but it's not gonna fucking get you anywhere.
You gotta deconstruct that shit, you gotta recalibrate it, for, like, you need to burn down all the bullshit you've been told, and been taught, and been over binging, and and trying to blow up your life with all of this extra shit that's bombarding you on the [00:18:00] internet and all the free resources you're downloading, that's not going to make you more money.
In fact, you're wasting more time and energy and depleting your resources in order to tap into love and attract more money. You need to like, you need to calm that shit. You need to calm, work on your nervous system and being able to anchor into what you have now and how make that work for you. And this is very difficult for those that are feeling stuck in that broken busy cycle.
It's, it's really hard. And this is what made me feel so driven, is I see it so much, I see so much lack and I know that fear, I know how it takes a huge hit on our ego and how it's almost too hard for us to swallow our pride and ask for help and take that big leap or to Pull out your credit card and spend thousands on it to get ahead again.
It feels awful. It feels wrong. You feel so alone and you second guess everything that you're doing. All because of money. Because you don't have it right now. Because [00:19:00] you're living in fear. You're living in lack. You're living in scarcity. You're running out of money. When you believe you're running out of money, you're going to keep running out of money.
Because you're not looking at the opportunities to create money. You're just looking at how much you spent. How much you lost. And you lost sight of what there is to be gained. So, with my private clients, and working with so many private clients, this is what drove me to create the Mystic Sisterhood, because then it was an, an easier yes, an easier option for those especially newer in business, who've already invested so much, probably made the classic mistake of buying all the fancy shit, and stocking all the supplies for the clients they don't have yet, or getting like certificate driven.
Like you get so caught up in like, the more, I gotta, I gotta learn everything and everything all at once so that I can offer all the services and service all the different varieties of people and I'll get clients faster. Okay, some of that might be true, but how do you expect to get more clients for all these services if you don't know how to sell [00:20:00] one and fill your books for one, right?
There's so much mindset and It's simple strategies and selling and marketing and branding and foundational pieces that are skipped by people trying to go create these billion dollar six figure businesses by throwing money at it. And that's just not how it works. So I created the sisterhood because what's really going to grow your business the whole key like I'm an organic marketing specialist I've done the damn thing.
Okay, like I'm here. I've got two businesses. I've grown and scaled I hit six figures in less than a year. I've done the damn thing and I spent years before that Tattoo shop I own, like I've, I've learned how to rebuild and build businesses over and over and I know it doesn't work. I am a pro burnout specialist.
I know what it's like to burn too bright and work too hard and get addicted to the hustle and grind. It doesn't need to be that way and the [00:21:00] reason it was so hard for me and gave me fucking cancer, right? Like trying to live that way isn't sustainable, but I was doing it alone. There's so much put on us to do these things alone in order to make a living in order to get money and then we start to resent money because we don't have enough money and it's so much work to get money and it's so hard to make money but that's all a lie it's not hard to make money at all you have to learn how to love it how to attract it and how to recalibrate all that chaos and all that shit that's going on in our heads so we can see the clear paths in order to turn the tap on and have money flow to us.
We get to fill the fucking cup for more than one tap, people. Hey, this is a web. This is a whole system. Oh, water system, plumbing system. I don't know what else you could go for here, but There is endless supply, you just gotta know how to tap [00:22:00] into it, and if you're too busy running around, you're never gonna know what plumbing's beneath the surface that you can tap into.
You don't know where the, the aqueducts are. I think that's the right word, it felt good.
You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink. Right? So I created this Mystic Sisterhood to create the reservoir. So I invite you in, I invite all you in, anyone who's feeling the fear, can't make the full commitment, but they want to commit little bits at a time, they want to show up, they want to start doing the work.
But they, they're too scared to dive all in, they're too busy to do all the things, and they don't really know what to do next. I have designed the Mystic Sisterhood to help you get from that 0 or 5k point where you're just stuck. Even if you're at like 0 to 3k, dreaming of 5k months, that's okay. I can get you there.
That's what we, we work on the mindset, we work on the energetics, we have the strategy. Teaching you how to sell and make your business work for [00:23:00] you while collaborating and growing a network and fostering a healthy community of other like minded women and individuals who are also creatives. Because you don't need to create everything on your own.
I mean, like, your network is your net worth. You gotta connect. in order to reconnect with your purpose, your why, and understand where you're going. And together we rise. We can't light up the light sky as a single star, right? The more of us there are, the brighter that sky is going to be, and the more fucking majestic.
You can't outshine one another, we can sure damn well try, but we're all stars, we can burn as bright as we fucking want, but we sure burn bright together. You can't put a candle out by lighting another one with the same flame, so that's what this sisterhood is. We can just light each other up, and fucking, we want, we want a supernova.
Okay, like that's the goal, we [00:24:00] want a supernova, we want consistent 10k months and beyond, like that's where we're going. And that's why I've created it, because we want to love ourselves and our community and create more love by loving one another, celebrating one another. We want to love our money. We don't want to get stuck in the toxic productivity bullshit and that intention of, I've got to figure it out.
I've got to figure it out now. I've got to figure out how to get it now. That's not the vibe to attract money your way. That is a desperate shit. That's the psycho girlfriend. That's the aggressive chasing, trying to like, chase it, grab it, make it yours. Would you do that to somebody? Would you chase them down the street and grab them?
Like, that's rapey, right? We don't want to go there. No, that's fucking wrong, okay? We don't want to assault money. Money doesn't like assault, being assaulted. Alright? And I, like, that's not what we're doing![00:25:00]
Chasing and being aggressive, like, that's all those, all those low vibration energies, they're all feeding the fear. When you're really alone and really scared and don't know what to do next, it amplifies that fear. Like, you're in the dark and you're stressed and it's that survival mode, clawing your way through.
That's not how it's meant to be. We're not meant, we're abundant beings, we're meant to shine our light, we're meant to grow, we're meant to cast, like, when we shine our light, it may cast shadows, but as we move, those shadows move, we get to reveal all that's available to us as we move along in this plane of existence.
Nothing's out of bounds. Light trumps dark. Always does. So it's time for us to lean back. And we need to redirect your drive, like me too, I get caught in this too, redirect our drive to be more productive with our mindset and work with [00:26:00] the universe in order to, like, we need to take the flow and release, release the go go.
This is the balance that we're so desperately searching for. Everyone says they want work life balance. Well, this is the balance you're looking for. This is what you're actually overlooking. You've been searching all this time for work life balance, but you're ignoring the balance of love versus, like, hate and anger and fear, like, the light and dark.
It's the most fundamental balance of all time, and you're neglecting it. That's why you're not seeing it.
We block money by placing so much shit, so many expectations and restrictions on it. Like, we're choking it. Aggressive. Just choking the life out of your money. Your money conscious frugal as fuck, [00:27:00] your money conscious frugal as fuck mindset and behavior These patterns of behavior are the reason you're broke.
I want that sink in for a minute.
Your frugal as fuck mindset patterns of behavior are the reason you're broke. You got a broke bitch mind. Can't get rich. Broke bitch mind. It's not gonna work. Okay, we gotta fix that shit. Broke bitch behaviors. Yeah, 3B, so 3B's, I don't know, I like reiteration. If you're hoarding money, if you're chasing money, and if you're not getting money when you want to, you're mistreating your money, you're only celebrating your money when, when it comes a certain way.
Like, you're creating more lack, more scarcity, all out of, for what? For what purpose? Why would you want to create more lack and scarcity for yourself? [00:28:00] This is that broken, busy bullshit, right? So until you choose to actually stop playing the blame game, stop bickering about money, and start making the decision to actually make an effort to build this proper relationship with your money.
Like, what if you looked at it like dating? We say relationship, it is a relationship. We're talking about love, we're talking about attraction, we're talking about money as if we're dating money. If you don't make an effort to hold yourself accountable, you'll never grow fond of one another.
It's a two way street. It's an energy exchange. Okay? I want you to think about that. Your time, your work put in, the money you receive. It's all energy exchange. How it feels to receive money. You feel that when someone gives you a gift, or you get given more money, the excitement, the relief, there's a feeling associated there.[00:29:00]
That feeling is an energetic frequency. And when you give money, or pay for something for someone, or buy someone a gift, and you give it to them, when you give money, that, that grat, that gratitude, and that, but to reciprocate, to give and receive. Like, that is an energetic frequency. You can feel that. The way it feels to play, you know, when you want to spend a little extra on yourself, you want to go, go on a date, you want to go do something weird, you go drop a few thousand on a vacation spontaneously, like, that shit feels good, you get to play with your money.
To go spend money on creative photo shoots, that's how I like to play with money, I like to go buy fucking props and book myself a photo shoot, that shit's fun. Like playing with our money, going on adventures, how does it feel when you fantasize about your money? These are all things you would do with your date.
You give them things, receive things [00:30:00] from them, play with them, fantasize, and do other fun things with your money. Just like you would with them. You need to love them. These are all acts of love. Money is a part of life. It's a part of you. It's a companion. It's a frequency. It exists already. It is abundance.
You just have to get to know money a little bit more, right? You gotta let money come out of her shell. She's, you know, they've been in there for a while, locked away, held down, restrained. Money's a little traumatized right now. It's dark in there. You're a little fucked up, but it's okay, we're gonna fix that.
We need to ask ourselves some key questions here in order to get deep into understanding our current relationship with money. So we know what we want, we know how it feels, we know the excitement of dating and loving and wanting, but then like, when you're married to your money, like, this is where we take that expectation off.
It doesn't matter if you're dating, doesn't matter if you're married, doesn't [00:31:00] matter if you're on a break, money still exists, money is love, it doesn't matter what title you put on it, you just need to learn to play and accept and be one with your money. So, key questions. Let's see where we're actually at with money. Because we love the idea. We love the idea of being rich and playing and exploring and dating our money. But how does it feel to actually talk about money?
What comes up for you here? Like, ooh, we shouldn't talk about money. Or, like, is there a shame there? Do you feel like jazz? Like, yeah, I fucking love money! Like, I love money. My kids know it, too. My daughter's even like, oh! I love that she says that. It makes people turn heads and they're like, What the fuck?
Like, why does your kid want to talk about money? No, like, we want to be excited about money. Money provides opportunity. Especially as women. I'm not saying it doesn't for men either, but In most typical social constructs, where the women, especially right now, in Canada, just feels [00:32:00] like there's a lot of women who are at home with their kids, and like, we kind of feel like we don't have that financial freedom in the sense of, we are the key breadwinners, and we feel like we feel guilty spending money on ourselves, or asking for money, or if we go buy something for ourselves and take it from the family or the home, or whatever.
You know, in these situations, money buys our freedom, our freedom of choice, our freedom of expression, our freedom to have a voice and feel like what we say is valid, even if we have the most supportive partner in the world. We still feel that way. We still feel a guilt associated with money. So I want you to get really honest and think about that.
How does it feel when you talk about money? And then when you feel that feeling, we want to anchor into that feeling you just had, getting all excited, fantasizing, dating, and all the things you want when you think about getting rich and getting more and getting more. Where's the, why the disconnect? We're going to get to the root of that.
You need to get to the root of that so you can feel the way it feels when you're getting more money and you feel safe and excited and find ways to anchor into that feeling rather than [00:33:00] this other feeling you have when you go to talk about money. What comes up for you here? Do you feel that you know how to manage your money wisely?
If not, you can even use that as an affirmation, like I, I know how to manage my money wisely. Like you can say that daily if you're uncertain, but a lot of us, we want money, but then when we have it, we're not sure, you know, we always don't like, oh, should I? Or should I put on this credit card? Should I do this?
Like maybe I should just pay off all my debt right away. Maybe I should, you know, like, Do you know how to manage your money wisely? Do you know how to spend money on what makes you money, not just on what makes you feel good? Or what makes you feel good, is it a way, like where, how do you manage your money?
Do you struggle to hold on to money? Because there's a lot of interesting things here. When we start getting and making more money, it's like, okay, the money's in, and then I gotta buy the next thing. Oh, I'm gonna buy the next thing. I'm gonna restock this. I gotta spend it on this. I gotta [00:34:00] reinvest, reinvest, reinvest.
There's actually times when you should be reinvesting or investing in certain things in times to wait. You're not meant to do it all at once, right? So there's strategy with how we spend and invest and manage our money. Do you feel safe with money? Do you feel like if you have a lot of money, that you're not safe?
Do you feel like people are going to come at you wanting more money from you? Do you feel not safe? Like, I would have these anxieties, personally, where I, for a while, felt like if I had a lot of money and I felt that I made it, that I would die. I wouldn't get to spend it. I would actually be more inclined, and still am.
I'm more inclined to want to spe I, I feel it deeply. I am more inclined to want to spend my money and make a memory and experience with it immediately versus saving it or holding on to it because what if I get cancer again and I die? What if I don't get to spend that money? What if I don't get to use it?
Now it's wasted. And that's something I had to work through. And I still have it come up, but I know how to manage it and work through it. And now I recalibrate it. Well, if, [00:35:00] if I die, I make this money and I die, it then goes to my children who get to spend it and make memories, right? So that's the legacy cash that I'm looking for.
It's not just about me. It's what that money means to those that I love. And the life that I'm creating for them through my money, and the opportunities I open up, the opportunities for them to explore the world and live a life and experience all that this life has to offer through my ability to make money and hold on to money and feel safe with my money.
But do you feel safe with money? Do you feel empowered by having money? Or do you just feel relieved? Like I feel, I feel powerful. I feel like a I feel like a boss ass bitch when I got my money. But do you feel empowered by money? Being empowered by your money. Like, what does that really mean for you? That feeling.
How does having a lot of money feel to [00:36:00] you?
Because it might feel stressful. And if so, we got to work on that safety story with money. Right? Like, we're trying to establish where are we on this relationship scare. Are you scared of money? Is money a bit wild for you? How's it, what does it mean for you to have all that money? What does it mean? What would you do with it?
You know, a lot of students and a lot of people I work with one on one, when I'm asking them what their big goals are, they'll, they'll cap themselves with, I just want to make 3k months or 5k months, which is fine. You don't have to have huge giant dreams, that's okay, but I think it's interesting because most of them cap themselves because they say, well it's more realistic, because they're afraid if they ask for more and don't get it what that means about them and their self worth and to make them feel shitty.
So we have to unpack that. And then ultimately this one's a big one. How does money's origin affect the way that you receive or [00:37:00] celebrate Your money. Because for a long time, especially my husband was helping me build my business or supporting me and, you know, when he rented me the thousands to get signage for my new school, um, you know, there'd be moments when we'd celebrate.
Oh my gosh, I got the signage, but I didn't see it as money. I was in a, in a mastermind and celebrating with my coaches. I'm like, oh, my husband just gave me five grand. But I wasn't counting it towards the money I was attracting that month. I'm like, well, this came from my husband. It wasn't money earned through my business.
And she said to me, what's the difference? When we're talking about wanting to call in 10k months, in that month, 5k from my husband counted towards my 10k months I was calling in, but I wasn't allowing it. I only did, I wanted 10k in sales, not 10k from him. Money doesn't give a fuck. The universe doesn't care how you categorize it.
If you say you only want 10k, it can come to you in many different ways. So if I want 10k in sales and more, I want overflow, well now I'm going to [00:38:00] make a goal of 20, 25k months. Because then if other money came my way or was loaned to me or rented to me, maybe another line of credit for 15, 000, 25, 000, 60, 000, whatever.
Whatever money I'm calling in, the universe will provide. But it might be in a way that I didn't think it was going to be. It might be in an origin of Outside of what my expectations were, this is where we need to remove our expectations on where money is coming from and how we are to receive it.
There's lots of different ways to gain access to money if we are more open to the different types of opportunities for money to come our way. Maybe it is credit. Maybe it is, maybe it is a credit card you get approved for so you can afford to hire that coach or take a training or go to a conference.
Maybe it is a line of credit. So what if it's debt? This will be in part two, we're going to cover more about the the debt money side of things, but this is access. Money is access. So regardless of its [00:39:00] origin, are you celebrating money? Or are you being picky choosy about what money matters to you? Because that's fucking rude.
Right? And do you love your money? Right? So this all comes back to, so wherever this is coming from, and how do you feel about it, feeling safe and empowered, but do you love it? Do you trust it? Do you trust money to come back when it goes away for a little, little trip? And if you don't trust it, why is that?
Is it because it feels out of your control? What steps can you take to allow and create more flexibility for money to flow your way without choking the life out of it, trying to micromanage and control every single aspect of it and drive yourself crazy? Do you feel like you're just running out of money and don't have enough money?
Because is that [00:40:00] really true? Even if you are thousands of dollars in debt, you have attracted those thousands of dollars for you to even spend in the first place. So you can attract it. We just need to attract it and apply it in a different manner. So what is coming up for you here? Where is all of this coming from?
And is there, is any of it true? Or is this just more lies that you're used to telling yourself and like come to believe as a result of how money was treated growing up or throughout your life or currently or whatever situations you may be in?
It's time to decide, like, fucking decide right now to make a point of starting over and giving money a chance to get to know you so you can get to know money. You need to give [00:41:00] yourself a chance to get to know your money. Date your money. Go on money dates. Make a point of getting familiar with your money.
Right now, make a point every two weeks. Once a week, once a week even, but if that sounds stressful because you're so busy and so chaotic, I don't know what you're doing, just pick twice a month. And then ideally, I like to date my money every Friday, take a little finance Friday, like to date my money on Friday, check in what's going on, see what's happening.
Right? How's it going, money? Where we at today? Not at a judgey way. Don't be hasty. Don't judge money. Right now, your goal right now is to make, schedule yourself some money dates and observe your cash flow. Just like how you would observe someone on a date. What do they look like? What are their mannerisms?
How do they move? What is it you love about? How does it flow in and out of your accounts? Where is the money going and why? What are you spending your money on? Why are you spending your money on that? There's no excuses here. Drop the [00:42:00] I'm not a money person bullshit and become one. Start dating your money because you are an energetic being.
You're capable of loving your money. So let's fucking figure it out. Put on your big girl panties. And date your fucking money.
Assess what choices we've made to get here. Like, why, what are you choosing to invest in? Are you investing in yourself? What areas are you investing in? Are you investing in mentors? Are you investing in product? Are you investing in people? Like, staff? Are you investing in systems? What are you building?
What are you spending your money on? What are you making money from right now? What's already working for you? And if nothing, we gotta fix that shit. But do you spend money on yourself? Do you spend it on others? Do you spend it on your business? Like, get to know them. Open the conversation here. We need to start communicating with our money.
Right? This is where we get so stuck in this, like, shame, and scarcity, and then we get all scared and worried [00:43:00] about what's coming in and what's not coming back in, and stop fucking with the flow, guys! Like, stop fucking with the flow and your fear with all this false drama bullshit. Detach the outcome. Cut that shit off, okay?
Detach it. Don't worry about the outcome of what, what money is in your bank, and what it means about you, and your success, and your self worth, and your ability to succeed, and any of that shit. Okay? Cut the shit. Start celebrating. Celebrate what's coming in. And what has come in, and what can and still will come in.
Especially if you have like monthly recurring revenue. Like celebrate the fact you have memberships. Celebrate the fact you have clients that have prepaid, or are booked and are paying the rest when they do come in. Celebrate the fact you have clients you can sell to, get referrals from, and resell to.
There's always something to celebrate. Start celebrating! Get excited for when money is going to surprise you that you don't even know about Because there are countless and [00:44:00] endless opportunities for money to flow your way At any given moment, any day Getting all jacked and sweaty now
Hopping in, like Like, change at the bottom of your purse. Right? Money can just pop in. It can just show up anywhere. Money can be, money can, money can come in the form of, like, an unexpected client or referral. You know, like, one of those dream people that just shoots out to you and is like, girl, like, watch your stories.
Like, I really wanted brows and lips, can you book me for a bundle? Like, that shit happens when you show up and tell people what you do and what you're here for. People are watching. Anyone can buy from you at any given time. You just have to be willing to receive that. It's a gift from the universe, but you get to tell the universe what you want so they can buy the gift for you, right?
You can't just keep all that shit inside, swirling around, all in anger and fear and darkness, that doesn't fucking work. Shine the light on what you want so everyone knows, and the [00:45:00] universe knows, Oh shit, that's what she's here for? Love it. Love it. You have to actually love it. Like, I love you for being here, and I love you for listening.
And I love you for wanting to love your life more, and love the work that you do, and love the money that you make doing the work that you love to do, and love the world for making it a better place. I'm being you. I love you.
Start looking forward to seeing money more. Loving money, wanting to date money more, having fun with your money, be excited with money. Not to rehash the past bullshit when you look at your money and all the sob stories from before. No one cares about the exes. Just look, go forward, okay? Break up with the, with all that shit.
Break up with the past, move on. The past is history. Review, [00:46:00] refine, reanalyze, recalibrate, and relaunch. That was a really long list, but do it anyway. When you're searching for more, more ways to play, more ways to invest wisely, finding ways to grow and to celebrate, to create opportunity, whether it's expected or unexpected, right?
That, that is when the abundance begins to really flow. So it's time to tap in and cash in, because you a mystic fucking sister.
